Next Year Will Be Better Blues

Next Year Will Be Better Blues

Procrastination is a fantastic way for people to protect themselves from the things they fear.  Think about it?  People procrastinate to avoid change.  I hear people every day say they hate their job, yet, they never do anything about it.  They complain, become negative, and even abuse their bodies by over-eating and drinking.  They have become comfortable being miserable. We should NEVER be comfortable feeling miserable.  Feeling miserable is your bodies way of telling you something needs to change. 

Think about this, how many times have you said, “Next year at this time things will be different, I will lose that 20lbs, I will be in a good relationship, I will have the career I want, and one of my old favorites, my life will be better?”  You find yourself 10 years later still saying that.  I know how that feels.  I used to do it every day. I spent my 20's & 30's saying if I just lost 20lbs everything else would fall into place.  Guess what I lost 25lbs!  My relationships were still awful, my career sucked, and I felt the same way I did 25lbs heavier.  I created a weight problem to take the focus off the areas of my life I needed to focus on and was afraid too.  

That was my moment of truth.  Did I want to put the weight back or did I want to look at what the real problem was.  The first thing I learned is I stuff down fear with food and alcohol.  In my case it was wine and chocolate.  The second thing I learned is no matter how hard you try to stuff down a feeling, good or bad, if  the feeling does not start it will never end.  Eventually, in my case you create a drinking/food addiction that does give something other to focus on or you face your life.

If losing weight is your challenge think about why you want to lose the weight?  Really look at it.  Examine why and write it down.  Once you do that write down on a sheet of paper what is holding you back from losing weight.  Really look at your life and what makes you happy, more importantly what doesn't make you happy.  

Always remember it's not about what you weigh.  I truly believe weight is a symptom of an unbalance in your life.  It is a self defense you have created over the years to protect yourself.  Never be afraid to reach out.  I did.  I will never regret it.  Take the first step to discovering your happiness.